Do you believe you’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with? Here’s why it’s bogus and what matters instead

Jim Rohn’s famous quote is a common platitude spouted by various growth/development gurus these days. Want to improve your life? Then uplevel the type of people you spend time around because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. 

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Fat is Not a Feeling

The first time I thought I was fat was on the bus in fifth grade.

My little thighs were spreading out and sticking to the brown vinyl seat that had, in places, been duct taped together.

It was a hot late spring afternoon and this was North Carolina. The windows were down to cool us off but I was more concerned about the size of my legs than anything else. 

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What this blog is about (and my business) after more than 10 years

I've been in business for over 10 years. Some years I've felt like a pro. Other years I've felt like an impostor. 

Some years I have made tons of money (multiple six figures), other years what felt like hardly any (under $30k).  Some years I've outspent my earnings and other years I've saved. Some years I've been proud of my accomplishments and at other times I've wondered if I have any talent whatsoever for what I'm trying to do. 

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The solution to systemic violence starts at home

It feels like we’re surrounded by violence. And the violence we’ve been experiencing (mostly, I hope, as bystanders) in our nation and world is tragic. 

Those who commit these violent acts are, in most cases, individuals. Solitary men. (Sorry, dudes, but not so many chicks are involved in mass shootings and terrorist acts.) Men who make a series of decisions that lead them to end the lives of others.

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